Monday, November 7, 2016

GUEST POST: THE BEAUTY IN MENTORING BY HANNAH BOWERS

Hannah Bowers


I remember coming out of a nasty breakup in high school and not knowing where to turn. My relationship had successfully left me in a place of isolation and continued to hang over my head as a painful memory of the costs of letting someone close. I was 17, had graduated early, and was working 40+ hours a week between my two, part-time positions. Needless to say, I was hard pressed to find anyone in my life with godly insight to speak into my situation and, for almost eight months, I found myself trying to keep my head above the “waters” that flooded me.

A few months before Christmas, I was wrapping up the book Ordering Your Private World by Gordon MacDonald and found myself in a difficult place. MacDonald beautifully lays out for the reader why our pursuit of an ordered life is necessary to Spiritual growth and my thoughts continued to rest on the fact that my life was not orderly. The things I was wrestling with stemmed beyond my relationship mishaps, but were amplified by the struggles that lay within. Years upon years of self-image and self-worth struggles. Almost a decade of failed friendships. Bullying and peer pressure mixed with homes struggles. Grieving over the death of my Grandmother. It all came to a head that fateful summer and Gordon MacDonald, without even knowing it, stirred the pot with his powerful book.

Somehow, I ventured down the aisle of church one Sunday and asked my pastor’s wife to meet with me on a regular basis. I can’t remember that moment with great clarity, but I know that the hardest part of entering into a season of discipleship and mentoring was in simply asking for that privilege. Satan likes to use our vulnerabilities to his advantage and amplify our fears to keep us from walking where God has called us. The first step, the one where we step beyond our control, is always the most difficult, but most crucial in being faithful to the call. We aren’t asked to make great leaps and bounds, but simply a step at a time.

As the weeks went by, the Holy Spirit moved within me as I sat across from that 70-year-old woman in her front living room every Thursday. She didn’t see a vulnerable, broken teenager as I did when I looked in the mirror. She saw an open door for God to be glorified and an opportunity to build beauty into a life that desperately needed a glimmer of something beautiful.

If a mentor is someone who gives help and advice  then you don’t need a master's degree or ten years in the industry. You don’t have be the image of ideal living, in fact it’s our bumps and mistakes that qualify us for the job of mentor, teacher, confidant, and friend.

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is the Father who is full of mercy and all comfort. He comforts us every time we have trouble, so when others have trouble, we can comfort them with the same comfort God gives us.
(2 Corinthians 1:3-4 NCV)

What we see as the messy bits in our lives are the opportunities we have to glorify God. Our beauty doesn’t merely lie in the successes and moments of victory. No. It shines even brighter in our times of difficulty. Who we are now is a powerful testimony to what God can do with brokenness and one of the best ways to embrace that newfound beauty is to let God use us to mentor and shape the younger generation.

My season of mentoring lasted just over a year, but continues to be fruitful in my life every day. As I journeyed through that time of weekly growth underneath a godly woman, I found myself frequently going back to this verse:

You poor city. Storms have hurt you, and you have not been comforted. But I will rebuild you with turquoise stones, and I will build your foundations with sapphires. I will use rubies to build your walls and shining jewels for the gates and precious jewels for all your outer walls. (Isaiah 54:11)

Wherever you are, wherever you’ve been, I want to remind you that the your inner beauty is not there to be hidden aware. God desires for you to use the beautiful transformation in your own life to cultivate beauty in someone else’s through mentorship. Mentoring is part of the Great Commission when we are told to go and make disciples of all nations. Discipleship in and of itself is a powerful position of mentorship to someone else.


Be a mentor. Change a life. Embrace your inner beauty.


21-year-old Hannah Beck is a Speaker, Musician, Author and Founder of the Young Wives Club, an online community for wives and fiances to network and support one another. A native of Northwest Ohio, Hannah now lives with her husband, Zach, in Colorado Springs, CO. She is passionate about helping women grow in their faith, cooking, naturopathic medicine, and midwifery. Check out her new book, Daddy Daughter: 10 Dates Designed to Teach Biblical Womanhood, on amazon.com!

Thanks, Hannah! <3

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